Hi, Friends, sharing with you again in gratitude, my personal notes on the 3rd Talk of the Series: MAGNETIC by our Feast Builder Bro Dreus Cosio @ The Feast SM Santa Rosa, Cinema 1, two weeks ago.
Sorry for posting this late; I just had to accomplish a lot lately — but I don’t wanna miss this chance because being a mother of three daughters, I dearly hope this would be something they can always go back to when they come to the RIGHT TIME of finding their “Mr. Right”. I sure do hope that this would also help a lot of parents out there while they fervently desire for their child’s best future.
How to Attract The Right Person Into Your Life
Talk 3: The Bond
When you try to look for the right person,
“Hanapin mo yong taong gagawin kang priority, hindi temporary.”
Basically, both men and women — some, if not all — do not really know how to attract the right person in their life.
Why? — because people are getting confused in their love story and with the way they look at themselves.
Unconscious as they are, there is that tendency to carelessly submit or comply with the 3 Laws of Romantic Attraction:
1st law. You don’t attract who you deserve. You attract who you think you deserve.
Subconsciously, you see yourself in a very low way. You’ve got to consider that your perception is your reality. If you perceive yourself as somebody who is broken, you will be looking for another broken person.
The perfect formula for a toxic relationship is a toxic self.
2nd law. You don’t attract who you want. You attract who you are.
A wounded person will attract another wounded person. An emotionally healthy person will attract another healthy person.
3rd law. You don’t attract how you want to be treated. You attract how you treat yourself.
Long before he treated her as garbage, she already treated herself as garbage.To her, abuse felt like love.
Broken people attracts broken people. “If you don’t do the inner work to heal yourself, your unhealed wounds will attract another wounded person.”
“If you don’t heal your own wounds, you’ll go into a relationship, seeking for someone else to heal your wounds.”
You get attracted to many wrong people because you don’t really think of your self too well.
TO ATTRACT THE RIGHT PERSON, you’ve got “WORK ON YOURSELF FIRST!” Unless you have a healthy relationship with yourself, you’ll never have a healthy relationship with others.
Its ok for you to declare that you are wonderfully made. You have to love yourself!
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You’ve got to BE YOUR OWN BEST FRIEND!
Here are these 6 WAYS to be your own BEST FRIEND:
1. Forgive your faults.
Imagine yourself at the end of the day and forgive yourself.
2. Fix your fences.
Fix your defense system — your boundaries. Protect yourself from meanness.
3. Feel your feelings.
All emotions are valid but not all expressions. Affirming your feelings is respecting yourself.
Put a gap between emotion and expression.
4. Focus on your fantasies.
What do you picture in your mind?
Stop thinking about the bad stuff that’s happening in your life.
5. Follow your fun.
Don’t take yourself too seriously. “tumawa ka naman!”
Laugh more often!
6. Find your flow.
Go on, pursue your passion as a person!
If you find your flow — your “zone” — you feel alive.
Go back to yourself. Be comfortable with one thing in life — be comfortable with God’s love.
The bond simply means you have to fix your relationships at home by fixing your self first. You have to love your self every day. You have to feel good about yourself because it all boils down on how you see yourself!
Bro Dreus concluded with this advice:
“Everyday, start declaring the wonderful characters that you are! Couples as well, you could start to embrace your differences and start fixing your relationship.”
Pwedeng may part ng buhay mo na hindi ka sanay
But you need to be comfortable in that place— how?
Magpamahal ka kay God.
Allow God to tell you how much He loves you!
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All that it takes for us to come up with something beautiful out of any mess is that heart that appreciates.
You can always BECOME THE BEST YOU as a Mom!
Here’s hoping my story would create an inspiration in you!
Dear God, Thank you so much for the Gift of Time! You gave us great hope just when we thought that we could no longer make it. Those simple notes saying “Mommy, sana hindi ka mawawala sa akin!” and “Mommy, sana po paglaki ko, nandito ka pa din ah!” has been my BIG WHY. Not that Breast […]
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You’ve been pained? … You felt small? Once, twice, so many times? … and Somebody caused it?
BOUNCE! Be harder than you never thought you would be!
The person who caused you the pain could be the ground you fall in. But the harder you are, You will just bounce and never will stay where somebody made you feel down.
Strive to IMAGINE …
Paint a beautiful picture of you, overcoming that “feeling small”. No one could really bring you down if you wouldn’t allow yourself to feel so low!
Plan how to produce the dream that God has placed in your heart and trust that God’s anointing would eventually heal the pain of being belittled. Imagine your dream becoming a reality!
Claim that 2017 will be your BEST YEAR EVER!
#payitforward from #feastsmstarosa #thankyouBroDreus #gratefulgail #bestyearever
Na excite akong umuwi!
Na excite akong bumallik!
Umuwi sa kung saan ako nag umpisa.
Bumalik sa kung saan ko nakilala ang “ako” ngayon na dala ko saan man magpunta.
Yong naging “ako” nang “dahil sa kanila.”
Sila na matiyagang nakinig sa bawat sharing ko na may paiyak iyak pa.
Sila na nag strategize ng mga activities na hanggang ngayon ay walang kupas ang epekto sa aking pagkatao.
Si Ma’am Myra Dizon Nicolas na mae-excite ka sa mga comments sa journal ko na hanggang ngayon ay itinatago ko pa.
Si Ma’am Twila Punsalan na sa bawat tanong ay talagang mapapaisip ka ng isasagot na magpapangiti at magpapaganda ng aura nya.
Si Ma’am Wilma Reyes na ramdam mong sumisimpatya sa bawat hugot mo in effect sa mga kwento nya.
Si Ma’am Kelly Fulgencio na naniwala sa mga kaya kong gawin noong practicum days.
Iilan lang sila dati na nagtaguyod ng aming pagpapakatao
— at si Ma’am Tway ang pasimuno! … hehehh 🙂
Nagtatag ng STEP Organization … at pinilit palakasin Batch-after-batch kung saan na-challenge kaming 22 VE Majors : 3rd Batch, 1992! Hindi dapat sa amin huminto ang paglaganap ng Samahan; kaya naman bilang President kapit lang ang naging peg ko sa suporta ng mga mga ka-Batch ko … laban sa pagtaguyod ng Samahan ng mga Tagapagpalaganap ng Edukasyon sa Pagpapahalaga! STEP!
Nakakakonsensyang hindi mo sila balikan para pasalamatan!
Kasi malaking parte sila ng kung ano ako ngayon.
At syempre, nakakapanghinayang na di mo gustuhing makasamang muli
ang mga classmate mong naging karamay mo sa hirap at sarap ng college life.
Sa bawat iyakan, tawanan, tambay sa “malaking puno ng mangga — yong katotohanan na malaking parte sila kung paano mo kinaya!
30 years na! On our Third Decade … tuloy pa din ang advocacy bilang Values Education Major kasi dito ako nagsimula! Masarap lumingon sa pinanggalingan! — an ATTITUDE OF GRATITUDE ika nga!
At sa inyong lahat, who made this day possible, THANK YOU ALL SO MUCH!
Nahihirapan ka na? … Parang ayaw mo na? … Suko ka na?
Di na kaya i-PUSH? … Di na kaya sabihing KERI LANG?
Oh, eh di pa’no? … AYAWAN NA?
BUT WAIT! … IKAW BA TALAGA YAN?
Baka lang naman kasi PAGOD KA LANG!
That truth na kaya ka naandyan sa kung ano ang situation mo ngayon ay dahil meron kang gustong i-accomplish, baka nakakalimutan mo lang!
That reality na ilang paulit-ulit mo nang ginagawa yang pinaghihirapan mo ngayon dahil gusto mong ma-attain ang isang GOAL, baka naiinip ka lang!
BUT GUESS WHAT …
Wala sa huli ang pagsisi kapag habang nahihirapan ka ay mas ginagalingan mo pa!
DELAY YOUR GRATIFICATION!
Ang ibig sabihin, nasa una lang ang hirap, nasa huli ang sarap! Kung baga sa pagkain ng “chicken joy”, ihuli mong kainin ang balat dahil yon ang pinakamasarap na part!
Wipe-out lahat ng pagod mo if you DON’T GIVE UP as of yet kasi your REWARD is already coming up … malapit na malapit na!
Napagod ka, yes! Nahirapan ka, yes! … pero dahil ni-PUSH mo lang and sinabi mo sa sarili mong “KERI lang to the max”… ang pinakamasarap na part ay yong meron kang na-accomplish at na-attain mo yong isa sa mga goals mo.
and another best part, alam mo kung ano?
… that truth na habang nahihirapan ka, gumagaling ka! habang pinupulaan ka, nagiging mas matatag kang hindi sumuko! habang nanghihina ka at napapagod, nagiging mas malakas ka — kaya ayan, KINAKAYA MO! — at dahil dyan, God is really smiling at you and will soon give you the GRATIFICATION THAT YOU DESERVE!
Just wait and see!